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A simple way to cope when you’re emotionally sensitive at work

ProfessionalHugSelfIf you’re an emotionally sensitive professional, sometimes, you probably magnify icky thoughts in your mind, right?

You feel deeply, and sometimes, you take those feelings out on yourself. 

I know. I’m emotionally sensitive.

So yesterday, I saw my bank account and realized I’m below my goals.

I started to tense up with fear and began breathe fast and shallow.

I started to plunge into the river of negativity.

I started telling myself all kinds of harsh things, like “Maybe you’re not a very good coach,” and “Who would want to work with you?”

And of course, with all those harsh thoughts flying around in my brain, it was hard to think straight about how to get back on track financially.

Not very pretty, right? 

If you’re emotionally sensitive at work and prone to be hard on yourself, I want you to know this:

The journey into negativity is optional.

Fortunately, I know how to get back in the positive flow, even if it’s sometimes hard to gather the energy to make the shift. So I didn’t stay in the negativity. I shifted into  positive territory. And when I did, I immediately thought of two prospects to call, one of whom is excited to work with me. Ah, relief! And results!

How can you stop the flow of negativity to turn things around?

Practice good emotional self-care in tough times. Find your own personal practices for well-being, and keep a list handy to remind yourself.  Some of my favorite self-care turnarounds include . . .

What do you do to get back into the positive flow of your life, especially when things seem negative at work?

I’m asking you for a reason. Our moods shift in cycles. Maybe you’re totally upbeat and joyful right now. But at some point, you’ll face some more challenging feelings.

Here’s a sensational shift use can use to enhance your emotional well-being:
  Quickly, make a list of self-care practices you enjoy. That way, you can keep the list on your smartphone. You could even put a hand-written list in your wallet. When you need some emotional first aid, you’ve got it at your fingertips. Easy!

Create your list before you need it, so that you’ll have it in those moments of need. It’s great to add ideas that engage your body, such as movement, listening, changing your view, and using your sense of scent. These are subtle but powerful ways of adjusting your mood.

So, what’s on your emotional self-care list?

One idea to add to your emotional self-care list…be one of the five (yep, limited) emotionally sensitive people I coach in July, 2015, as part of the Sensational Sensitivity at Work beta test. Get all the information here.

4 Responses to “A simple way to cope when you’re emotionally sensitive at work”

  1. Lily says:

    Being an emotionally sensitive person and understanding that I absolutely will need an ‘emotional self care list’, when I was living at home with my parents I wrote out a list of about 20 things I could do for myself. I also organized them by the easier things (walking) and a last resort (flower essences, only because I had a small budget and the ones I used were pricey, though effective).

    One that really helped me in acute distress was sitting with my feet in cold (not ice) water. It brought the energy and awareness into my feet, grounding me, instead of my head, which created all my tension and anxiety.

    Also standing by a tree, walking barefoot.. Also doing circle walking. My psychiatrist shared that one with me – counter clockwise to release energy, clockwise to build it, and the infinity symbol (8) to help with equilibrium. There’s no specific area you need to walk the circle in, just enough to feel it. You can feel negativity and tension shedding when walking counter clockwise.

    Also drinking water, and I used to *always* carry a pendulum with me. I would take it into the bathroom and it would circle counter clockwise to release energy, and clockwise to build it.

    I also used to have conversations with Angels around me and my higher self, and that helped. Somehow it never conflicted with my work!

    I had to use intense self care at the beginning because my emotions were *everywhere*. As time has gone on, I have successfully managed/regulated them so that I don’t experience so many ups and downs.

    I often shift into my heart by thinking about gratitude and what I’m grateful for. I feel my fingertips and what my hands are resting on or holding. I feel my body and what I’m standing on or sitting in.

    For me, journaling my feelings hasn’t always worked – in the past it has led to more spiraled down thinking, simply because it’s a very mental activity. But when it’s really needed, it’s the perfect catharsis.

  2. Thank you for your beautiful and sensitive suggestions, Lily. I trust they will be a great service to others. Hugs of appreciation to you, Susan

  3. Menaka says:

    Thanks for the ideas and suggestions for the emotional self care list..here are some of mine:

    -getting really warm and cosy in cold weather and light and cool in warm weather
    -choosing some happy ending books, children’s books etc.
    and doing a marathon read
    - hanging out, listening to and playing with kids
    - doing purification stuff- detoxing, baths, decluttering
    - eating a deliciously healthy nutritious meal and having chocolate for dessert
    - reading angel cards for guidance
    - sitting outside in the sun
    - writing what I feel negative about and drawing angel wings around the list so it gets handed over
    - looking at different colours and sensing how they make me feel
    - sprinkling some nice smelling aromatherapy oil around the room

  4. Wow, such great ways, at low or no-cost, to practice emotional self care, Menaka! Thank you for sharing these! ~ Susan

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