You feel deeply, and sometimes, you take those feelings out on yourself.
I know. I’m emotionally sensitive.
So yesterday, I saw my bank account and realized I’m below my goals.
I started to tense up with fear and began breathe fast and shallow.
I started to plunge into the river of negativity.
I started telling myself all kinds of harsh things, like “Maybe you’re not a very good coach,” and “Who would want to work with you?”
And of course, with all those harsh thoughts flying around in my brain, it was hard to think straight about how to get back on track financially.
Not very pretty, right?
If you’re emotionally sensitive at work and prone to be hard on yourself, I want you to know this:
The journey into negativity is optional.
Fortunately, I know how to get back in the positive flow, even if it’s sometimes hard to gather the energy to make the shift. So I didn’t stay in the negativity. I shifted into positive territory. And when I did, I immediately thought of two prospects to call, one of whom is excited to work with me. Ah, relief! And results!
How can you stop the flow of negativity to turn things around?
Practice good emotional self-care in tough times. Find your own personal practices for well-being, and keep a list handy to remind yourself. Some of my favorite self-care turnarounds include . . .
- Consciously reminding myself that in this moment, everything is OK. I’m safe, with a roof over my head and food in my belly. Not everyone in the world can say that, so I am grateful that I can.
- Slowing down my breathing until I can do 4 full breath cycles in a minute, because I know that the mind follows the breath.
- Gently placing both hands over my heart and feeling its rhythmic, constant beat of life
- Closing my eyes and see peaceful images of nature
- Ditching, my work, even for a few minutes, to take a walk outside and breathe the fresh air
- Listening intently, and hearing myself breathing the sounds of inspiration
- Putting on soothing music, or sometimes, dance music — and even getting up and do a little boogie
- Making myself a nice big mug of steaming hot, fragrant, vanilla rooibos tea
What do you do to get back into the positive flow of your life, especially when things seem negative at work?
I’m asking you for a reason. Our moods shift in cycles. Maybe you’re totally upbeat and joyful right now. But at some point, you’ll face some more challenging feelings.
Here’s a sensational shift use can use to enhance your emotional well-being: Quickly, make a list of self-care practices you enjoy. That way, you can keep the list on your smartphone. You could even put a hand-written list in your wallet. When you need some emotional first aid, you’ve got it at your fingertips. Easy!
Create your list before you need it, so that you’ll have it in those moments of need. It’s great to add ideas that engage your body, such as movement, listening, changing your view, and using your sense of scent. These are subtle but powerful ways of adjusting your mood.
So, what’s on your emotional self-care list?
One idea to add to your emotional self-care list…be one of the five (yep, limited) emotionally sensitive people I coach in July, 2015, as part of the Sensational Sensitivity at Work beta test. Get all the information here.